Have you ever had a friend who you thought was a real but turned out they weren’t? Yeah, I think we all have. Just like good help is hard to find, good friends are sometimes hard to find as well. I’ve learned though, that in order to attract and have good friends, you must first BE a good friend. Here are 8 ways to ensure you are being the best friend you can be so that you can have the best friends you’ve ever had.
- Add value. The #1 way to be an authentic, awesome friend is to add value to people’s lives. Money can purchase valuable things, but value itself cannot be purchased. Adding value is not about buying things or giving nice compliments. Adding value is about giving people something intangible that can positively affect their life forever. Whose life will you add value to today?
- Always be truthful. Along with loneliness, there’s almost no feeling in the world than being lied to by someone you care about. Lies are like milk: they have an expiration date and end the end, they smell horrible! The truth is refreshing and goes a long way, so why not tell it?
- Remember the small things that make a big impact. Anyone can remember a birthday, an anniversary or a holiday; it takes a real friend to remember those small things that only a friend would know. Whether it’s grabbing a favorite snack, remembering their favorite color or special dates of the year that are significant to them. A real friend remembers the small stuff.
- Be consistent in your character. Fake friends are nice today and rude tomorrow. They call you friend today and enemy tomorrow. Real friends don’t do that. Real friends are consistent in their character and personality; they don’t take you on roller coasters. Real friends are the same in every environment and around everyone.
- Be there. If you want to be an awesome friend, then just be there. Nothing hurts worse than a person you thought were a real friend not being there for you. If your friend needs you, then be there. If they’re in trouble, then be there. If they’re down in the dumps, then be there. That’s real friendship.
- Listen and respond. One of the biggest problems men have in relationship is listening. I know because I’m a man myself. It’s just something about hearing a woman speak for long periods of time that causes us to tune out. We have to be purposeful in listening. Listening is a very important skill in friendship. If you’re friend is venting about something, do your best to not only listen, but respond as well.
- Realize that relationship is more important than anything. It’s inevitable that friends will have disagreements; it’s just a part of life. You have to realize though that the relationship is more important than any silly disagreement you may have. Disagreements are problems are temporary, but relationships last forever.
- Be genuinely concerned. People ask you, how are you doing? But, most of the time they don’t’ care. It’s only a formality. Real friends are genuinely concerned about the people they call friend. If they’re having a bad day, they really do want to know so they can try to help them have a better day.
At the end of the day, you can do all 8 of these things from start to finish, and with all of your power. But, sometimes people don’t reciprocate good friendship, which generally causes someone to be hurt. No matter hurt you’ve been and how broken you may feel right now because of previous broken relationships, I encourage you to continue giving all you can to be the best friend you can be.
Bible Scriptures About Friendship
John 15:12-15 – This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you. Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you. Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.
Proverbs 27:5-6 – Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.
Proverbs 22:24-25 – Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn his ways and get yourself ensnared.
Proverbs 27:17 – As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
Quotes About Friendship
- Fake friends are like quarters, they change for a dollar.
- A friend who became enemy, wasn’t a friend to begin with.
- Friends make the worst enemies.
- Don’t tell me all they said about me, tell me why they were so comfortable saying it to you.
- I don’t need a bunch of friends. It’s better to have 4 quarters than 100 pennies.